Men are actually responsible for a woman — very different than being superior.Not only are they responsible for us financially, but also our emotional well-being.If he knew something bothered me or caused me pain, he wouldn’t do it, that simple.In the bedoin culture men are often viewed as superior to women (by outsiders), but it’s not that way.In his culture men have an obligation to truly take care of their wives.He’s responsible for all the bills and monthly obligations while providing me anything I want without hesitation — even if it means he goes without. My opinion matters and he always asks what I think or how I feel.Family members were actively seeking out prospective wives to include cousins. They have very close family ties and rarely marry outside of their tribe. And someone he could see himself investing a lifetime in. Certainly I’m not someone his mother would have chosen for him, but she’s never made me feel that way. Perhaps they were just relieved he was finally getting married?
Fortunately my husband does fit comfortably into this part of the culture he appears to have left so far behind. The typical Southern Belle raised as an only child in America. I never had to share anything with anyone — even my space.He can comfortably spend his Winter in a desert tent, cooking fresh meat over fahem, and brushing his teeth with a miswak. While I’m watching the Arab Ramadan shows, he’s fully invested in an episode of Daily Show or Colbert.There’s very little about him that fits into the stereotypical ‘bedoin’ mold.But we go to the local co-op and people literally stop what they’re doing to stare. I respect that more than the stares, and I think my husband appreciates it more as well.My husband is very out-going and friendly to everyone.